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Whenever a jealous person says; "Must be nice" tell them it is and show them how to get it.
It goes both ways
We have a neighbor who grew up with money. He likes to talk about his money. We are very private about ours as he gabs. That's nice. Yawn. My husband drives a 2003 Chevy Silverado 2500 we paid cash for. This guy buys a brand new truck every 3 years. Good for him. I'm honestly happy for him. But shut it. He has nothing else to talk about. Don't be that guy. You drive people away.
My thoughts are that it is a privilege many secretly want, to have come from parents wealthy enough to be able provide generational wealth. It is nothing to be ashamed of, so he needs to address that internal judgment within himself. If he has children, I’m sure he would want to be wealthy enough to help his children in the same way.
Once his own judgement towards himself are gone for the gift he received, the jealous comments of others (those who didn’t receive generational wealth from their parents) won’t phase him.
I'll never understand being "generous" with money, outside of helping out your children. I'd rather set it on fire than donate to anything else.
The harder I work the luckier I get.
I had a friend who came over after being away for a decade. She was jealous and would say things to me to prove it. I'm no longer friends anymore. She got divorced and received a huge settlement and blew it. I've spent every penny on my home and maintenance. I can't help it she blew money and went from guy to guy and never paid a mortgage.
Get new friends. Never be the wealthiest and most successful in your circle.
My favorite is you have money because your lucky 😂
I went from 50k a year, to focusing 100% on work and took a leap by myself to start my own business. Detached from the world for 2yrs, nothing but work and now have been in business 6yrs & lowest year I’ve hit is 2.6mil.
I’ve never changed, if anything, I give a lot more than ever. I’m always giving to people randomly. Tipping people hundreds just to make their day better.
One thing I’ve seen, is the more money I’ve made the less people who are around me. EVERYONE friends and family constantly asking to borrow money and not paying me back, hell not even offering at bare minimum.
When people are successful I truly am happy for them and just as pumped for them as I am for myself. There’s a ton of work and sacrifice into owning a business. It’s rough with no time to do anything at times and with very little appreciation.
Your feelings matter less and you all of a sudden are judged on every step you make. Yet, the ones judging can do as they please. I feel this guy 10000% except, my parents were broke. I come from low-income household and ordering pizza on a Friday was going out to dinner for us. I hustled on my own, truly on my own and brought hundreds of people with me to change their lives. Once they got some money they thought they knew better; would try to start their own and would fail within a year. Then call me saying sorry and asking for their job back. I’ve always said no, when they say it’s lonely at the top they truly mean it.
Because the higher you climb, the less people you want around you and the more people look at you like a cash cow. Meanwhile, you’re trying to help and do good by anyone who needs it.
Fuck em and do you! The right ones will come along and not be so insecure!
Stay grindin!
I say. I have busted my butt for 10 years to have and make what I make. What have you done?
That’s why i realized I don’t need friends. My best friend confidant my rock my partner in life the person who will always stick on my side should be my husband. People wonder why I’m not for friends, that’s the reason why. Husband is my priority and my or our kids.
"It must be nice" Answer: "I'd invite you around, but it's a house for loved ones."
Proverbs 10:4 “A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich.”
He seems confused. Friends are not jealous or envious of your wealth. They are tired of you always talking about how wealthy you are. My friends’ father had paid for everything for them and is going to leave them good money when he passes away. They both have very good jobs where they earn a lot of money. They never speak about it. They never brag. They act exactly the same as they did before they had money. I also live a very modest life. Small house, 2 paid off cars with a lot of miles. All my money is in retirement. I never speak about it. That’s how actual friends act towards each other. This caller just wants to speak about money with people who don’t care to know his finances. He is the problem, not them.
A 200k income is poverty in la
It’s likely that is because your parents paid for part of your house
Dave: There are people that don't understand….
Trust me Dave when I say this. I watched a BAJILLION videos of your show so I DO understand. I understand BUT I do not want to empathize with that.
See I am one of those people (and most like Fred's friends too) who believe that being wealthy is MY RIGHT. Therefore, it SHOULD BE GIVEN to me as opposed of me striving for it. I do not see it as a "Charity case" since GETTING MY RIGHTS is not charity.
It is people like Fred that makes my (or our) lives miserable. Because wealth is like Economics. Limited opportunities, UNLIMITED demand. He accumulated wealth so MY PORTION of it is being DEPRIVED of me.
I am what are you gonna call a "toxic, garbage slouch". Maybe I am, Maybe I'm not. So my advice to Fred? FIND NEW FRIENDS. Your friends would not apologize. ESPECIALLY IF WE THINK that it is YOUR FAULT that we are miserable. "Parading your wares" that SHOULD BE OURS. In their opinion, it should BE YOU that needs to apologize.
See? No middle ground. Find new friends.
What i would say is i work hard for my money and bust my ass ..you choose to be where you are with no job no car with no nothing and living with mommy and daddy…so YEAH IT SURE IS NICE 😉😉
He doesn’t understand that he’s lucky to have generational wealth and how hard it is for others who do not benefit from it like he has and will likely continue to in the future. Many people don’t have anyone to help them out financially, in any way.
get them a copy of dave's total money makeover.
Stop telling people stuff
They aren't your friends.
Dave is very wise, I love listening to him
In my friend group, of probably 5-6 married couples in our 30s, we all give each other a hard time about everything. And no one takes offense.
How do you know that they're high income? You don't boast about your salary you don't boast about things I drive American made cars like Fords. Yes, I would like to have an Audi and I could afford an Audi. It's just that I'm not into cars that much I just feel like what I drive is nice. It's a black 250 Ford truck with red leather interior. It's beautiful. I do want to add some pretty wheels to it however, my husband is arguing with that. He says there's nothing wrong with the wheels that I have but I have a job and actually I'm a substitute teacher so I work when I want to so basically I can work and make the money to buy these wheels. I do buy quite a bit of jewelry. I have thousands of dollars worth of jewelry a lot of it's in the bank but I bought jewelry over my lifetime so that's kind of like my expense. We're getting ready to buy new furniture for the living room and it's well deserved and actually I came across $4500 so I didn't even know I had and some kind of teacher Fund so I'm like that will more than pay for the furniture because the furniture is going to be like maybe 2600 for a chair and a nice loveseat I mean couch so I didn't even know I had that money if the school hadn't sent me the letter I would've never known I even had the moneyso the money is coming out of our savings or like our salaries right now is like I call it free money. My husband says there is no such thing.
Get dogs or cats. They don't care and still love you
I will always remember being treated the same way by my best friend's parents when I was 18 and how much it changed my perspective on people and life. I drove a relatively nice car, at least for my age and among my peers, because I had a decent job and had decided that's how I wanted to spend some of my money. I had gotten my friend the exact same job working with me, but like many at that age he only worked part time while I was cranking 40 hours a week in addition to being a full-time student. This friend's Mom made a comment that came off in the same way, as if she was judging me and my parents for buying me this car for me while even though she could totally afford to do the same she had to work for hers and that's why her son has to work for his. It was my first exposure to a true narcissist.
Take care of who you tell and talk to. Not everyone has your back or wants to improve their own lives.
I used to be jealous of my coworkers (equivalent positions) who somehow negotiated for a higher salary than mine. And then, over the years, I’ve gained an enormous amount of respect from my colleagues because of who I am and what I do and how I do it. And I’ve realized that these traits are more admirable than any amount of exterior, apparent wealth. And these are the things I will be remembered for after I’m gone.
This story does NOT relate to Newsom's 9.5M new mansion.
Then they are not really your friends.
I'm retired and am taking cruises several times of year. Just last week I has a friend in the small town I live in pull the "Must be nice," for the third or fourth time, when she found out about me heading out on another cruise. I figured I'd heard it one too many times, so I shot right back; "Must have been nice opening those Christmas presents with your kids, on Christmas morning, instead of working in a prison like I was." She's not popped off since.
I Kno the feeling all my friend work warehouse jobs
I'm the only one with a house that went to school and they seem jelly
Get to the point!!!
I don't understand why people are jealous of a close friend who has financial success. I will be happy for them so I know that I have a friend who will not borrow money from me.
This is actually a common problem. It sucks that being a responsible human triggers others to bring you down.